One place I usually avoid on online dating sites is what Lava calls the “Intimate Encounters Page”. It is basically Catfishing but back in the days before Catfishing was invented. These pages are full of Freaky Pervs looking to score but without putting any effort into the job. One weekend when I was feeling adventurous though, I did decide to give it a try. I thought it would give me some stories to entertain my friends with if nothing else. So I decided since it is completely anonymous that I would partake in the dark side. I made myself a profile, a short and sexy little number and waited for the bait to be taken. The bait was taken, I had 30 smiles after a couple of hours and my picture was not even up there. There were 10 men instant messaging me all at once. I was kinda flattered but really these men know nothing about me, not even what I look like so it was very weird.
It was also freeing in some respects so I can see how people get into it. You are anonymous and can say anything you want, you don’t even have to be yourself if you don’t want to be. It could be some people’s fantasy to meet a stranger where you can be anyone at all and there are no rules but it also brings us down to a baser level.
One funny thing happened though. I was flicking through the instant messages waiting for me and what before my wondering eyes did appear? If it wasn’t Serial Dater (SD). It seems that even though he wasn’t interested in dating me that he is interested in something else. So I thought to myself why not play along he doesn’t know who you are. His message was “I am the man for you” so I replied “really do you think so?” and he asked how much dating I had done on Lava I replied with “I have met a few guys none of them up to my standards” or something along those lines and he was in the process of trying to get me to meet him somewhere for a good time when the power went out. So my stringing him along came to an abrupt end.
We have to give him credit, or slap me for being dumb, because I changed my name and profile but not my vital statistics. SD sitting around in the dark figured it all out! When the power came back on and I checked my email there was one from him saying that he knew it was me on Lava and that maybe we should try again and this time just be “fuck buddies” I think that is a direct quote.
So there is a moral to my story… if you’re going to lie you have to lie big or go home or maybe the moral should be don’t try to trick people cause it will only bite you in the ass! So then I had to figure out if I should email him back saying no thanks it was just a joke or take him up on the f-buddy offer.
Online dating can be really complicated as you see!
Have fun out there.